“Operationally, ideal family treatment begins when one can find a family leader with the courage to define self, who is as invested in the welfare of the family as in self, who is neither angry or dogmatic, whose energy goes into changing self rather than telling others what they should do, who can know and respect the multiple opinions of others, who can modify self in response to the strengths of the group, and who is not influenced by the irresponsible opinions of others. When one family member moves toward “differentiation,” the family symptoms disappear. A family leader is beyond the notion of power. A responsible family leader automatically generates mature leadership qualities in other family members who are to follow.” Kerr and Bowen, Family Evaluation, pgs. 342-343
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