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    Are you a Mama Grizzly? Do you give your kids more help than they need?

    What’s Wrong With Being a Mama Grizzly For Your Kids?

    What’s Wrong With Being a Mama Grizzly For Your Kids? Silvina, a self-proclaimed “mama grizzly,” came in for a consultation because she was so worried about her daughter.  Laura, 22, had recently moved back home after she’d lost her job as a sales representative.  Silvina reported that Laura was sleeping late, refusing to apply for

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    Sisters

    Solid-Self and No-Self Behavior, Another Perspective

    In my recent newsletter I addressed the difference between “Solid-Self” and “No-Self” behavior.  In this post I’ll describe another aspect of what it means to operate from a solid-self rather than a no-self perspective: Daisy (not her real name) has been a client for the past several months.  She takes her therapy seriously by making goals for

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    Family Therapy

    Systems Theory Versus Cause-and-Effect Thinking in Therapy

    What are the differences between Systems Theory and Cause-and-Effect Thinking in Therapy? James* came into therapy after being arrested for driving under the influence of alcohol.  His M.D. told him he’s probably an alcoholic. Celia wants help due to conflict with her husband, Tomas. Art is in therapy because some days he’s too depressed to

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    10 Reasons to Have a Relationship With a Family Member Who’s Been Mean to You

     “Why Should I Have a Relationship With a Family Member Who’s Been Mean to Me?” People who come to me for therapy know that I advocate developing and maintaining contact with as many members of the nuclear and extended family as possible.  Some clients are initially skeptical of this idea: You may have had conflict

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    5 Ways Working with a Clinician Trained in Bowen Family Systems Theory Can Help You Reduce or Relieve Symptoms

    Working with a clinician trained in Bowen Family Systems Theory can help you to reduce or relieve your symptoms or symptoms in a family member.  This is because of the way BFST conceptualizes symptoms. What is a symptom? The dictionary says a symptom is; a physical or mental feature that is regarded as indicating a

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    Are You an Anxious or Overly Permissive Parent?

    The following are some of the characteristics of overly permissive parents that I consider most important.  Most of the parents are devoted to doing the best for their children.  In relationship with the parents, the youngster is driven by anxiety in demanding rights and freedom, and the material advantages of being grown up.  Initially the

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    Bowen Family Systems Theory Therapy

    8 Benefits of Coaching with a Marriage and Family Therapist Trained In Bowen Family Systems Theory

    8 Benefits of Coaching with a Marriage and Family Therapist Trained In Bowen Family Systems Theory: money advance loans 1.  Your Coach will help you develop clarity about your own thoughts, opinions and beliefs on the important issues in your life. You can learn to “hold onto” these beliefs while withstanding emotional pressure from others

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