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Solid-Self and No-Self Behavior, Another Perspective

In my recent newsletter I addressed the difference between “Solid-Self” and “No-Self” behavior.  In this post I’ll describe another aspect of what it means to operate from a solid-self rather than a no-self perspective: Daisy (not her real name) has been a client for the past several months.  She takes her therapy seriously by making goals for

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Systems Theory Versus Cause-and-Effect Thinking in Therapy

What are the differences between Systems Theory and Cause-and-Effect Thinking in Therapy? James* came into therapy after being arrested for driving under the influence of alcohol.  His M.D. told him he’s probably an alcoholic. Celia wants help due to conflict with her husband, Tomas. Art is in therapy because some days he’s too depressed to

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10 Reasons to Have a Relationship With a Family Member Who’s Been Mean to You

 “Why Should I Have a Relationship With a Family Member Who’s Been Mean to Me?” People who come to me for therapy know that I advocate developing and maintaining contact with as many members of the nuclear and extended family as possible.  Some clients are initially skeptical of this idea: You may have had conflict

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5 Ways Working with a Clinician Trained in Bowen Family Systems Theory Can Help You Reduce or Relieve Symptoms

Working with a clinician trained in Bowen Family Systems Theory can help you to reduce or relieve your symptoms or symptoms in a family member.  This is because of the way BFST conceptualizes symptoms. What is a symptom? The dictionary says a symptom is; a physical or mental feature that is regarded as indicating a

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Are You an Anxious or Overly Permissive Parent?

The following are some of the characteristics of overly permissive parents that I consider most important.  Most of the parents are devoted to doing the best for their children.  In relationship with the parents, the youngster is driven by anxiety in demanding rights and freedom, and the material advantages of being grown up.  Initially the

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Bowen Family Systems Theory Therapy

8 Benefits of Coaching with a Marriage and Family Therapist Trained In Bowen Family Systems Theory

8 Benefits of Coaching with a Marriage and Family Therapist Trained In Bowen Family Systems Theory: money advance loans 1.  Your Coach will help you develop clarity about your own thoughts, opinions and beliefs on the important issues in your life. You can learn to “hold onto” these beliefs while withstanding emotional pressure from others

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Session 3: Parents Create Change in the Family System

Jenny* and Stefan are parents having difficulty with their 7 year-old son, Nicholas. They have come into therapy to create change in their family system.  This is their third therapy session. Stefan:  I know we started seeing you for therapy because of Nicholas, but things are going much better with him lately.  Jen and I are

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Session 2: Parents Create Change in the Family System

    Jenny* and Stefan are parents having difficulty with their 7 year-old son, Nicholas.  They have come into therapy to create change in their family system.  This is their second therapy session. Lorna (Therapist), to Jenny and Stefan:  Last session you told me about problems you’re having with your son, Nicholas.  I encouraged you to

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Discipline is Attention

Session 1: Parents Create Change in the Family System

When there’s a problem with a child, I see the parents  for coaching in therapy.  As leaders of the family, parents have the power and ability to create change in the family system.   Jenny* and Stefan are having difficulty with their 7 year-old son, Nicholas.  I explain during the initial phone call that if

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