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    Category Archives: Children

    Are you a Mama Grizzly? Do you give your kids more help than they need?

    What’s Wrong With Being a Mama Grizzly For Your Kids?

    What’s Wrong With Being a Mama Grizzly For Your Kids? Silvina, a self-proclaimed “mama grizzly,” came in for a consultation because she was so worried about her daughter.  Laura, 22, had recently moved back home after she’d lost her job as a sales representative.  Silvina reported that Laura was sleeping late, refusing to apply for

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    10 Reasons to Have a Relationship With a Family Member Who’s Been Mean to You

     “Why Should I Have a Relationship With a Family Member Who’s Been Mean to Me?” People who come to me for therapy know that I advocate developing and maintaining contact with as many members of the nuclear and extended family as possible.  Some clients are initially skeptical of this idea: You may have had conflict

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    5 Ways Working with a Clinician Trained in Bowen Family Systems Theory Can Help You Reduce or Relieve Symptoms

    Working with a clinician trained in Bowen Family Systems Theory can help you to reduce or relieve your symptoms or symptoms in a family member.  This is because of the way BFST conceptualizes symptoms. What is a symptom? The dictionary says a symptom is; a physical or mental feature that is regarded as indicating a

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    Are You an Anxious or Overly Permissive Parent?

    The following are some of the characteristics of overly permissive parents that I consider most important.  Most of the parents are devoted to doing the best for their children.  In relationship with the parents, the youngster is driven by anxiety in demanding rights and freedom, and the material advantages of being grown up.  Initially the

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    Bowen Family Systems Theory Therapy

    8 Benefits of Coaching with a Marriage and Family Therapist Trained In Bowen Family Systems Theory

    8 Benefits of Coaching with a Marriage and Family Therapist Trained In Bowen Family Systems Theory: money advance loans 1.  Your Coach will help you develop clarity about your own thoughts, opinions and beliefs on the important issues in your life. You can learn to “hold onto” these beliefs while withstanding emotional pressure from others

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    Session 3: Parents Create Change in the Family System

    Jenny* and Stefan are parents having difficulty with their 7 year-old son, Nicholas. They have come into therapy to create change in their family system.  This is their third therapy session. Stefan:  I know we started seeing you for therapy because of Nicholas, but things are going much better with him lately.  Jen and I are

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    Session 2: Parents Create Change in the Family System

        Jenny* and Stefan are parents having difficulty with their 7 year-old son, Nicholas.  They have come into therapy to create change in their family system.  This is their second therapy session. Lorna (Therapist), to Jenny and Stefan:  Last session you told me about problems you’re having with your son, Nicholas.  I encouraged you to

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    Discipline is Attention

    Session 1: Parents Create Change in the Family System

    When there’s a problem with a child, I see the parents  for coaching in therapy.  As leaders of the family, parents have the power and ability to create change in the family system.   Jenny* and Stefan are having difficulty with their 7 year-old son, Nicholas.  I explain during the initial phone call that if

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    Anxious Pet and People Parenting

    Anxious pet parents are probably anxious people parents. My mother and I head out for a day of shopping and lunch when her (perfectly coiffed) Bichon Frise scoots between my legs and out the front door.  The fancy doggie bounces across the neighbors’ lawns and directly toward the street. Mom yells frantically, “Samantha, come here,

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    Tearing Away to Grow Up

    Selma, 38, has come in to therapy because of an on-going conflict with her daughter, Salina.   Salina is 19 years-old and, according to her mother, her behavior has recently spiraled out of control.   Selma was married to Salina’s father, William, until Salina was 9.   That’s when William got caught having an affair with a co-worker

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