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    Are You an Anxious or Overly Permissive Parent?

    The following are some of the characteristics of overly permissive parents that I consider most important.  Most of the parents are devoted to doing the best for their children.  In relationship with the parents, the youngster is driven by anxiety in demanding rights and freedom, and the material advantages of being grown up.  Initially the

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    Giving up to Go Along

    What does it mean to accommodate, or give up “self”, to preserve harmony? Ellis is a 53 year-old father of two. His wife, Stacy, is 51. Ellis runs a successful insurance business and Stacy is a homemaker. Their kids, Evan, 22, and Sheri, 19, are living at home. Evan started college at 18 but quit

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    Your Family is an Emotional System

    Q:  My husband and I are having a lot of problems lately.  I asked him to come to marriage counseling but he says I’m the one with the problem so I should just go by myself.  How can we work on our relationship if he won’t even admit he has a problem? Q:  My daughter,

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    Are you a Reckless Rescuer?

    Margo didn’t really want therapy for herself.  She had called about her 23 year-old son, Stephan.  She was hoping I’d see him for therapy to help “straighten him out”.  I told her I don’t work with kids that age if they are still living at home and financially dependent on their parents, which was the

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    Yet More Reasons Why Diets Don’t Work

    There are many physiological reasons why diets don’t work.  This entry explains some emotional reasons why diets are doomed to fail. Diets reinforce an “external locus of control” vs. an “internal locus of control”.  One’s “locus” (Latin for “place” or “location”) can either be internal (meaning the person believes that they control their life) or

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