Category Archives: Families

Bowen Family Systems Theory Therapy

8 Benefits of Coaching with a Marriage and Family Therapist Trained In Bowen Family Systems Theory

8 Benefits of Coaching with a Marriage and Family Therapist Trained In Bowen Family Systems Theory: money advance loans 1.  Your Coach will help you develop clarity about your own thoughts, opinions and beliefs on the important issues in your life. You can learn to “hold onto” these beliefs while withstanding emotional pressure from others

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Session 3: Parents Create Change in the Family System

Jenny* and Stefan are parents having difficulty with their 7 year-old son, Nicholas. They have come into therapy to create change in their family system.  This is their third therapy session. Stefan:  I know we started seeing you for therapy because of Nicholas, but things are going much better with him lately.  Jen and I are

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Discipline is Attention

Session 1: Parents Create Change in the Family System

When there’s a problem with a child, I see the parents  for coaching in therapy.  As leaders of the family, parents have the power and ability to create change in the family system.   Jenny* and Stefan are having difficulty with their 7 year-old son, Nicholas.  I explain during the initial phone call that if

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60 Minutes Interview

Emotional Triangles with Barack Obama and Hillary Clinton

The Bowen Family Systems Theory concept of Emotional Triangles was illustrated in a recent T.V. interview with Hillary Clinton and Barack Obama. Reporter Steve Kroft interviewed Clinton and Obama. They answered his questions about how they resolved their differences after the contentious 2008 election.  Both acknowledged that their staffs and their spouses had more difficulty

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A Lesson From An Animal Family About Human Family Attachment

Is attachment in human families anything like attachment in animal families? Can we learn anything about ourselves by watching animal families interact? A family of squirrels visits my home nearly every day. They’re usually waiting for my husband or me first thing in the morning. I toss almonds outside before I can even make my

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Anxious Pet and People Parenting

Anxious pet parents are probably anxious people parents. My mother and I head out for a day of shopping and lunch when her (perfectly coiffed) Bichon Frise scoots between my legs and out the front door.  The fancy doggie bounces across the neighbors’ lawns and directly toward the street. Mom yells frantically, “Samantha, come here,

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Healing From an Affair

Understanding Marital Infidelity: The Key to Healing From an Affair

The key to healing from an affair lies in making the effort to understand, really understand, how you and your mate have been operating in your relationship. Dwayne* came in for therapy after discovering that his wife, Gina, had been seeing another man for the past six months. He was   understandably devastated and confused. 

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Tearing Away to Grow Up

Selma, 38, has come in to therapy because of an on-going conflict with her daughter, Salina.   Salina is 19 years-old and, according to her mother, her behavior has recently spiraled out of control.   Selma was married to Salina’s father, William, until Salina was 9.   That’s when William got caught having an affair with a co-worker

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Giving up to Go Along

What does it mean to accommodate, or give up “self”, to preserve harmony? Ellis is a 53 year-old father of two. His wife, Stacy, is 51. Ellis runs a successful insurance business and Stacy is a homemaker. Their kids, Evan, 22, and Sheri, 19, are living at home. Evan started college at 18 but quit

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How to get the most out of Therapy Using Family Systems Theory

Here are some helpful suggestions about how get the most out of your work in therapy: During sessions: If you are coming in as a couple for marriage counseling or relationship counseling, strengthen your ability to listen while your partner talks with the therapist.  Refrain from interrupting and check with your internal reactions as you’re

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